In The House of Dog – From A Certain Point of View

“What I told you was true, from a certain point of view. You’re going to find that many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of view.” – Obi-Wan Kenobi, The Return of the Jedi

Our perception of the things around us are limited to our senses and our ability to process the information our senses provide us. That information isn’t always accurate. A blur of movement in the night might be a mugger, or it might simply be a trick of light and wind. A brush against your arm could be little more than a shift of air or it could be a spider crawling on you. Our vision, which is our main sense, is fallible in so many ways. There are so many optical illusions and tricks our eyes can play on us that I am reminded of yet another Kenobi quote “Your eyes can deceive you, don’t trust them.”

Some recent studies have shown that there is a difference in reality and what we perceive to be reality. I’m not going to jump to deep into that here, but this article sums it up pretty well: https://www.npr.org/2019/02/18/695637906/theres-a-gap-between-perception-and-reality-when-it-comes-to-learning

If there is a disconnect for us, what about other creatures? In this particular case, dogs? What information are they taking in? What conclusions are they drawing from it? Is the information accurate or interpreted accurately?

They are so many questions I wish I had an answer for. For everything I feel like I know about dogs and their behavior, there are hundreds more that I wish I had an answer for. Sometimes, I wonder if I’m even asking the right questions.

So where does that leave us as owners? Our points of view effect how we interpret what our dogs are doing and, perhaps more importantly, why our dogs are doing what they are doing. One of the greatest risks we run is anthropomorphizing our dogs: attributing human motivations and emotions to them. This is unfair to our dogs. So often I hear the words “He knows that he is doing wrong” or “She only does it when she is mad at me.” This isn’t fair to our dogs, because we can’t confirm that, and all evidence points to the contrary. We are incorrectly forcing our point of view onto our dogs actions and in turn dealing with them in the wrong way.

So what should we do? Train the dog that’s in front of you. I know this is going to sound counter-intuitive but don’t dig to deeply into WHY your dog is doing what they are doing. We might not always be able to answer that question. I can’t always explain why your dog is frightened by something. But that isn’t important. What’s important is what your dog learns to do in the face of that fear, and how you train your dog to face it.

So what’s the lesson here? I guess the lesson is to stop letting your emotions cloud your judgement, and stop letting it guide your actions with your dog. Don’t let your point of view twist what is really happening. Stop focusing on the “why” and focus more on the “what now”.

Happy Tails Everyone!

-Ben

Toss A Coin To Your…Dog Trainer?

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Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably seen this meme or heard this song making the rounds on the internet. “Toss A Coin” is a real ear-worm. If you don’t know what it is, I’ll take a moment to explain it you. This is from The Witcher, a fantasy show that follows Geralt of Rivia, a witcher, as he wonders The Continent hunting monsters for coin. Think of him as a bounty hunter of sorts, but only he hunts the things that go bump in the night. The guy in the picture is a bard, Jaskier, who takes it upon himself to extol the virtues of the Witcher to the various people Geralt helps along the way and make a little coin in the process for both of them. Countless memes have spun up around it, but for the people in my profession (and professions similar to mine), we have found an odd way to relate to both the song and the character it depicts.

While I wish I looked as handsome as Henry Cavill, I have some similarities to the character he plays. Geralt gets paid to hunt monsters, and admittedly, it’s rarely the people that have a lot of money that hire him. In the books, show and video game (all of which are great), Geralt is rarely hired to hunt monsters by rich nobles or kings. Usually, it’s poorer people, farmers and peasants, that offer him their coin in exchange for his services. And occasionally, he gets the question “Why can’t you do it for free?”

I don’t fight monsters, not real monsters anyway. The scary things I fight are in your dogs head and the fear that your dogs behavior creates in you. And while I think it would look pretty cool to wear armor and a sword, the truth is that my “weapons” are little more than a clicker, a treat pouch, knowledge, and patience.

Why don’t I do it for free? Well, mainly because good intentions don’t keep the lights on or food in the belly. In an ideal world, I could do this without charging people money. And while I know that some of you think my prices are high, you may not understand the costs that go into being a dog trainer. Even for a sole proprietor like me, there are a lot of expenses of operating. Supplies, maintenance for my vehicle since I don’t have a facility, gas, insurance, business licenses all factor in. Then there are expenses that people don’t think about, like continuing education costs. My certification, and certain professional memberships, require me to continue learning and to provide proof of that. Those classes are extremely expensive, most around $500 or more. And of course, there’s a powerful need to eat in there too. So, for now, I have to charge, and I charge appropriately for my services. I’d love to do this for free, I really would; but until I get my T.V. show and become a celebrity, I have to make a living.

So, toss a coin to your dog trainer, and your groomer, and your vet, and your dog walker. Remember that this is a mostly gig economy right now; and that while you shouldn’t break the bank, you should remember that others are trying to make a living as well.

As a side note, I would like to take a moment to thank you all for your patronage and support. I have seen a 159% growth in my business this last year. I could not do this without the amazing clients that I work for, and for you I am eternally grateful. Thank you all so much!

Happy Tails everyone!

-Ben

In The House of Dog – Need A Hero?

” Who need a hero? (hero)
You need a hero, look in the mirror, there go your hero”

-Pray For Me

So, this has been a busy year for me. Which is good! It’s bad for my blog, but I’m trying.

I hear a lot of funny things when I’m working with a client in their home. I get a lot of “you’re so good at this!” Well, yes, I have had years of practice and repetition. I also get a lot of “My dog listens to you, why doesn’t he listen to me that way?” Well, do the homework I am telling you to do, as I am telling you to do it and your dog will listen to you to. But there is one phrase I hate hearing:

Could you just move in and live here with us?

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m flattered. I’m also not an awful house guest. But I hate what that phrase implies. I know most clients say it as more of a joke, but many a truth is said in jest. When you joke about me moving in, then it implies to me that something is wrong. Now, there could be several things that are going wrong, but it means we need to talk.

So, where’d we mess up? As a trainer, I spend a lot of time watching you and your dog interact, looking for ways to improve your training style. I try to encourage people to ask questions, frequently; in whatever format they prefer. I keep my phone on and near at hand for just this reason. And there is no such thing as a stupid question.

But there are two sides to every coin. And I know that part of it is your confidence level. Now, there is only so much I can to help raise your confidence. I can say things to encourage and inspire you. I can cheer you on and praise you. I can even click and give you a cookie! But you need to realize that at the end of the day, it is all about you.

I wasn’t always this confident. I am not always this confident. I have my days where I just want to bury my head in the sand. Flynn’s dog reactivity acts up on his way to the groomer. Or Phillip gets snippy with the cats. Or I just get inside my head and start beating myself up. What do I do?

First thing I do is something I find relaxing. I’ve got a few hobbies and things that I enjoy. I’ll do something related to them. I’ll do something that’s not related to dog training. I also find watching a favorite show or movie or book helps immensely.

Then, I come back to the training problem I’m dealing with. I try to approach it from an objective point of view, without any kind of emotion clouding my judgement. This is much harder to do than it sounds. And I follow my own advice. I start with what I want the end result to be and work backwards from there. I try to take a look at where the problem is occurring and focus on that moment. And I keep doing this, practicing over and over again until I get it right. I train.

Training isn’t just for the dog. Training is for you too. You need to train yourself as much as you need to train your pup. You need to master your behaviors, fine tune your cues, build up your muscle memory and form new neural pathways. You need to be a hero for your dog and a hero for yourself.

And to quote Nick Fury: I still believe in heroes.

Happy Tails everyone!

-Ben

In The House of Dog – What’s In A Name?

I think that the most important point in the relationship between a dog and their owner is when they name the dog.

Think about it. Think about when you named your dog. And I mean, really think about it. Take a few minutes, stop reading this for a minute or two, close your eyes and think about that moment when you named your dog. What emotions are stirred up inside you right now? A spark of joy when you saw that wagging little puppy tail? Or a maybe a hint of sorrow, since the dog you are thinking of may have passed on. When you think about the dogs you have had in the past, when you speak their names, what do you feel?

Names hold a lot of power. Names are a certain amount of power that we exercise over the things around us; things we love and things we fear, we name them in the hopes that we will understand them and be able to have control over them.

When we don’t like someone, we use ugly and degrading names for them. When we love someone, we use cute and funny pet names. When we name our dogs, we impart to them (without knowing that we are doing this) characteristics and ideals to them without the dog knowing this. My wife picked Flynn’s name, after the character Flynn Ryder from Tangled. And that name affects how both of us view him. We’ll use words like goofy and charming, and “he’s giving you the smolder”, when we talk about him. And Flynn is most likely blissfully unaware of what we are talking about.

Sometimes I feel like a name is also an expectation of what we should expect from that thing in the future. If you name a car you bought a lemon, then you expect that car to break down frequently. When it does break down, you are just as exasperated with it; but when it keeps running when it shouldn’t, you’re ecstatic. Think about hurricanes? What names do you remember?

I think a lot about when I name myself a “dog trainer”, what effect is that having on me and on the people around me. It implies that I have a knowledge and understanding of dog behavior, or at least I should. It also implies that I understand how best to apply said knowledge to behavior problem your dog is having. It implies that I can teach you, the owner, how to do it. And for the most part, that’s true. But I’ve met some behaviors that I’ve never seen before, some dogs whose behavior we couldn’t change, and owners who I couldn’t teach (or possibly who wouldn’t learn).

Think about your dog’s name. Think about what you were hoping for when you named your dog. Think about how you let your dogs name affect your behavior towards them and in response to their behavior. Think about what kind of a power you want that name to have and work towards it.

Keep working and moving forward!

Happy Tails everyone!

-Ben

In The House of Dog – Resolutions and Resolve

New Years Day started for me the way so many days have started for me in the past two years. I was out in Baker, the cloud cover was just breaking away and the day was getting warm. The client’s house sits on this beautiful piece of property. They have a variety of livestock, and the husband is working on their barn when I arrive. It really was a beautiful day. I won’t go into the details of why that client contacted me, but I will say that they had some concerns about their dog’s behavior and I was able to allay those fears during the assessment.

I did what I feel like any honest, upstanding person should do: I told them that they didn’t really need me. I could have helped some, but nothing that these competent dog owners couldn’t and wouldn’t do on their own. When I gave them my assessment of their situation, they understood immediately what they needed to do and how they should go about doing it. They had a “light bulb” moment and started to plan on how they could begin working with their dog.

Now, I could have given them the doom-and-gloom speech, and believe me when I say that I have looked several owners in the eye and told them that is wasn’t a matter of if but rather when their dog was going to bite someone. I have an obligation to be honest with people. After all, their dog’s fate may very well rest in my hands.

That being said, I can always use more business. 2019 was a good year, overall, but the holidays have slowed things down. Again, I can be dishonest with myself and blame the economy or the holidays. I used to work for a person who said that business always took a hit during election years. I don’t know if he was right. I guess that I got complacent for a while. I always have and always will give my clients 100%, and when I am working with you and your dog, you are getting everything I’ve got. But maybe when it comes to the aspects of pushing my business, I’ve gotten lax. Could I be more aggressive in getting my name out there? In making contacts and expanding my professional network? I almost certainly could and will do so. I guess that’s my New Years Resolution?

What about you? What is your resolution? Is it losing weight? Exercising more? Training your dog?

There is one thing that you need for a resolution: Resolve! See what I did there? Seriously, if you don’t like pun based humor, this blog isn’t for you. Anyway, you need resolve. Can you build up your resolve? Well, sure, through repetition. Start simple. Say no to that one extra piece of leftover Christmas candy. Go for at least one 15 minute walk. Ask for your dog to Sit at meals. Do that for a few weeks. Soon, it will become a habit, and once it’s a habit, it’s hard to stop!

When it comes to dog training, you have to start small. Your dog will not be magically obedient over night. It will take time, persistence, and resolve. But you can do this! And if you can’t, that’s why you have me!

Happy New Year, everyone! And if you are former client reading this, thank you so much for making 2019 such a successful year for me! And if you are a new client or think you might need help with your dog, then I hope this encourages you to contact me! I would love to speak to you about it!

Happy Tails everyone!

-Ben

In The House of Dog – The Christmas Special

Admittedly, I am a bit of a Scrooge. I just have never been a huge fan of Christmas. I attribute this mainly to a dislike of shopping and not being overly fond of Winter. What can I say? I prefer warmer weather and longer days. But that is another conversation entirely.

As a dog trainer and someone who is well acquainted with what happens in the pet world around the holidays, I also view Christmas from a somewhat jaded perspective. You see the memes rotating around Facebook about older dogs being surrendered to make room for new puppies, and puppies acquired at Christmas only to be surrendered a few months later. You hear stories of vets treating more cases of pancreatitis and intestinal blockages (Seriously, folks, bones are bad for dogs! Stop!). The holidays are rough on your pets.

So, as a dog trainer, what advice can I offer you to make the holidays safer and more enjoyable for you and your pups? I’m glad you asked!

First of all, if you are entertaining guests at your home (and especially if you are entertaining guests with their dogs), make sure your dogs have some space just for them and give them breaks from the party. A bedroom or den, somewhere there is not a lot of foot traffic is ideal. Provide them chew toys like Kongs or something else equally tasty to chew on. Also, remember that in exciting situations, that accidents happen. Yes, those kind of accidents. Remember to walk your dog frequently, and give them plenty of opportunities to potty.

Secondly, there is going to be food. Lots of food. Lots of tasty food that is not very good for us, but extremely bad for your dog. There are some foods that you might prepare that your dog CAN eat. There are plenty of lists on the internet but the best source of what is safe for your dog is your veterinarian. And remember, I know that Fido is cute when he begs, but if you are not sure what you can give him, then don’t give him anything! In all fairness, we prepare special plates for our dogs at Thanksgiving and Christmas. If you are interested to know what we fix, please let me know!

Thirdly, be aware of what your dog’s limitations are. Is your dog a chewer? Maybe leaving presents under the tree is not always a good idea. You are also likely going to be pressed for time and not always be able to train. My words of advice are always: if you can’t modify it, manage it until you can modify it. In other words, if you can’t trust your dog in the kitchen unattended, then don’t let them in the kitchen!

Finally, be patient! Remember that the holidays are stressful for everyone, dogs included. This season is almost over, and it’s okay to do what you need to do (as long as it is humane and within reason). If you need some advice on what to do with your dog, let me know!

Otherwise, I hope everyone has a wonderful and safe holiday, and a most Happy New Year!

Happy Tails everyone!

-Ben